May 22, 2006

Dream Catching: Road Blocks

So, as we figured out in the last section you now know what your really want but, realism sets in. Can you really get everything you want by tomorrow? Most likely not. You know there is a difference between fantasy and reality. You need money, networks or other things to get your dream on the road to reality.

You most likely have some of these problems getting in the way of your dream; money, age, confidence, experience, it could be any type of problem. One method to begin conquering these problems is to write them down; whatever they are.

Once you’re done writing them down and you look over them you could start to feel overwhelmed or even depressed- you haven’t even began to pursue your dream yet and you‘re already feeling like you can‘t do it.

Though, Barbara Sher has something to say about your problems,

“Those are the easy ones! Those are the fun ones. They’re purely a matter of strategy and game plans.”

Here’s an example she uses to illustrate her point. Suppose you want to get across a river. There’s no bridge anywhere in sight and building a bridge is an overwhelming and time consuming task. You’re going to have to sail across, but what if you don’t have a boat? Borrow one. What if you don’t know how to sail? Get someone to do it for you. (Barbara Sher is a living resource of helpful ideas and comes up with some you never even thought of)

This is called strategic problem solving. I can imagine some of you are saying “yes but, it’s not that simple.” The phrase “yes but” sets off a mental dilemma Barbara calls the “yes but game.” Suddenly, these simple strategic problems become unsolvable riddles that are now the eighth wonder of the world.

What you’re really doing by saying “yes but” is your subconsciously complaining about doing whatever it is you’re about to do. You can actually start to use those subconscious complaints and feelings to your advantage through something Sher calls the power of negative thinking.

We’ll have more on that tomorrow