December 21, 2007

Free Holiday Gift to All

I'm quickly stopping by to thank all my readers for making this a source of information about self help. I'm giving everyone a link to one of my favorite ebooks about how to achieve your goals. I hope its as helpful for you as it was for me.


It was originally written in the late 1970's by Barbra Sher and geared toward women but the principles can be applied for anyone who wants to know a down to earth, practical way to achieve their goals.

Download the chapters, print it out, grab your favorite drink, sit in your favorite reading chair and enjoy.

Happy Holidays. More next time.

December 01, 2007

The World's Most Expensive Home

I'm back from a long vacation with an exclusive look at the world's most expensive home.

Your goals are only impossible if you think they are. More next time

August 29, 2007

Is Your Life Fun?

Just a quick update for today. I just stumbled across a great video called "The Eight Irresistible Principles of Fun."
Watch, learn and have fun.

We'll have more next time.

August 21, 2007

Can a Negative Attitude Reduce Your Lifespan?

Today I'm finally back with an important message about how your outlook on life can affect your lifespan and how having supportive friends or people in your life can prolong your lifespan.

It's no secret that stress is bad for you, but scientific studies show too much stress may reduce your lifespan. Stress can lead to all sorts of unpleasant medical conditions ranging from sleeping disorders to serious health problems such as high blood pressure, strokes, and even diabetes.

But what causes stress? It can be a whole range of factors. It mainly comes from the way you handle situations in your life. The health problems are a result of stress but what is important is what is causing stress? It all starts with an attitude a mindset you've gathered or formed over time. You can have an negative attitude or you can have a positive attitude.

A positive attitude is an an attitude or a set of beliefs that you are in control of your life and taking proactive steps to do. be, have whatever you desire from life. A negative attitude comes from believing others are in control of you and doing nothing to try to change your life. Negative attitudes can lead to depression (chronic or acute), and even social isolation or lack of healthy social contact due to lack of empathy and understanding. (I'll get to lack of social contact in a minute.)

There are studies shown that depression, chronic feeling of sadness and long periods of grieving release enzymes released which can break down your cells. One new study says that depression can kill you.

People can change their attitude about life gradually overtime. Sometimes it happens much sooner than you expect. You find you have a secret admirer who you actually want admiring you. You land a job you haven't heard from in two weeks. Just when you think everyone is out for themselves a stranger offers you a random act of kindness to you. It's amazing how even the smallest things can change someone outlook.

Having supportive friends, not just acquaintances, but genuine friends can increase your lifespan. Humans are naturally social animals.

Australian researchers found in a 2005 study that people with close friends live longer than those who don't any close friends.

A positive outlook on life will make you healthier mentally and physically and is very important to prolonging your lifespan but having close friends is also part of the equation of keep yourself healthy and happy.

So don't be negative all the time, it's alright to release frustrations and let off a little steam once in a while but a negative attitude about the world and yourself can literally shed years off of your lifespan. Living in isolation and without any close friends is also unhealthy. If you have problems making friends or are too shy to open up do a little internal investigations to think about why you are shy or have problems making close freinds. Live your life the best you possibly can.

We'll have more next time.

July 23, 2007

Does the Law of Attraction Take Action?

After another month long disappearing act I'm back with a question. Does attraction take action?


Even though each situation and circumstance is dependent on how much action you need to take you need to set the wheel of the law of attraction into action first.

There are times when you don't need to take much action at all. You will be out going about you're errands or enjoying a day out and you run into someone you've been thinking about over the past couple of days who you haven't seen in a long time or something good will happen completely unexpected that you weren't expecting.

Though, looking at those events from a realistic standpoint none of that would have happened at all if you had not gotten out of bed that morning or didn't leave the house that day. You needed to do something to set the wheels of attraction into action and manifest the things you want. In this case it was the simple action of stepping out of the front door.

Those are the rare exceptions to the law of attraction when not much action is needed. Most times some level of moderate action will have to be taken on your part so you can manifest what it is that you want.

Someone in debt can sit in their home and visualize themselves being richer all day long, but if they aren't taking any action or any realistic steps to actually make themselves richer they will be broke and visualizing themselves richer on the curb as the repo-man loads their belongings into the truck.

An armored truck isn't going to show up in front of their house and deliver gold bricks to them.

Visualization is step of action itself but it is only mental preparation for getting what you desire.

You need to take action on what you desire or want from life. Once you take action you are showing the universe that you are ready to get or have what you want. When you take action resources begin to manifest, people come together, opportunities arise; you are a step closer to your goal than if you didn't take any action t all.

When you work towards getting what it is that you want the universe works with you to help you get what you want. You have set the wheels of attraction into action.

But you still have to act on opportunities, no one can take those opportunities for you but you. They may be able to take them away from you but you are the only one who can act on them.

I'm not aware of your current situation but here are some action steps for different scenarios of goals.

If you desire a better love life, get out and meet people. Just go places you normally like to go to. Like minded people are at these places too. In fact, you may have overlooked someone.

If you desire to have more money invest in stocks, save your money, get a better paying job, or start a business. If you're feeling really bold find get a mentor who has attained the financial level you want and learn from them how to reach your goal.

If you desire to get better health start a diet plan, get a membership to a gym, or simply eat healthier.

What's interesting is when you take action on what you desire or your main goal the attraction of action has a cross effect on your other goals. For example, joining a gym to get in shape can not only cause you loose weight but also cause you to meet someone and this person may even be able to assist you with your financial goals.

Its amazing what happens when we take action on the things we want. All sorts of things happen and manifestation is set into motion.

So get going and take action on what you want.

More next time.

June 23, 2007

Critics of 'The Secret' Bemoan Claims

I just came across an interesting news story on how critics of The Secret are countering counter arguments about what makers of the movie are saying about the Law of Attraction.

Critics say The Secret is over simplified and could be harmful to people with serious problems who take the advice given in the movie too literally about not having to take any or much action.

John Norcross, a psychologist and professor at the University of Scranton in Pennsylvania agrues, "'The Secret' has earned my antipathy for its outrageous, unproven assertions that I believe go beyond the ordinary overpromises of most self-help books into a danger realm."

Rhonda Byrne, maker of The Secret says, "The law of attraction says that like attracts like, and when you think and feel what you want to attract on the inside, the law will use people, circumstances and events to magnetize what you want to you, and magnetize you to it..."

In my mind, they are both right. I take the road that James Ray took on the issue saying, "You can watch 'The Secret' and come away with the illusion that you can sit around in your living room and visualize your millions dumping into your lap, and that's just not going to happen."

While visualization is a very useful and helpful way of getting what you want it is not the only thing required to get what you want. Some degree of action is required on your part because than the universe will respond accordingly to your taking action and put people, events and resources in front of you to use.

I'll make a post that explains why taking action is part of The Secret (or at least my secret) next time.

June 13, 2007

Plenty of Fish

Apologies to those who have been keeping up with this blog. I took an unexpected vacation for about a month. Work was very busy in May and lots of action was being taken. So now I'm back today with a post about love.

Yes, you read that right, love. The Secret and the Law of Attraction apply to every aspect of your life.

Now, I'm not Doctor Ruth or the CEO of but I know a thing or two about that emotion and the unexplainable feeling we get in our heart when we see someone who gives off that certain "vibe".

And that is one of the principles of love, giving off energy. Your energy attracts other potential mates to you who are like you. Like attracts like.

Though, this energy can be given off in other ways to, in terms of negative energy. When you see someone who is very beautiful or handsome walk into your life and you are single you may think that man or woman is completely out of your league.

Get rid of that thought right now. Your love life depends on your outlook on love. You can have anyone you desire as long as you change your thinking.

That negative thought gives off negative energy or "vibes." This shows through in your facial expression and especially you eyes, it could manifest itself in a sudden slumping of your body posture or some other off putting body language. You can read someone just by glancing into their eyes and what is being interpreted to the reader when you have this thought is you have low self-confidence.

That's not the kind of image you want to present to potential mates who may be looking at you or watching you with interest when you aren't aware they are doing so. Or may look your way if you build up the courage to go and talk to them.

Also, you may be thinking "nobody is interested in me" if you're having an especially hard time finding a mate. The thought I wonder if "I'll ever experience the joys of love" may even creep into your mind during a lonely moment by yourself or when you see a loving couple.

of course you'll experience love.

There is someone for everyone on this planet. There's plenty of fish in the sea (hence the title). It doesn't matter what your weight is, intelligence level, or even sexual orientation. There's someone for everyone.

So don't be so hard on yourself. Love will come. You can even find it online. Maybe not today or the next but it will come. Whatever you think you will manifest in your world and gives off energy because as the process of manifestation goes thoughts lead to feelings which lead to actions which lead to results.

So live life and enjoy it. When you enjoy life you start to attract others who do also. There's plenty of fish in the sea and sooner or later you'll catch one. Or they'll catch you.

More insight next time.

April 26, 2007

Applying The Secret: Money Part 4

Today we will wrap up our series Applying The Secret, finally. It has been a long time coming :)

Today we'll tackle the fourth myth: Money doesn't make you happy or all rich people are unhappy.

Now this myth is actually a half truth. Money helps make you happy, but in the end you make you happy. Money is just a vehicle or tool to getting the things which make you happy in life. Whatever makes you happy whether it's spending more time with your kids, or getting more time to relax, travel whatever makes you happy money can give present you the opportunity to gain more of it, but remember you have to make yourself happy.

Here's where the law of attraction applies to this myth. When you say "money doesn't make you happy", your sending a signal out to the universe and at the same time giving that thought energy (in this case negative energy) which internalizes conflicting feelings about money which than will prevent you from reaching you desired financial goals. Thoughts lead to feelings which actions (in this case no action) which lead to results. Negative energy will yield no results and just more negative energy.

People who amass a large fortune have the gift of time given to them. They are free from trading their time to make money. When they have all this time they then need to think what really makes them happy in life? Money just presents the gift of time and expands your life options. It's what you do with your life that makes you happy.

Now I want to make it clear that while material wealth doesn't make you permanently happy it is still important. Everyone deserves to have what they perceive to be nice things to better their standard of living. Whether it's buying latest Mercedes or Bentley sedan and a having sprawling mansion in Greenwich, CT and a summer home in the Hampton's. Or whether it's owning the latest Toyota or Chevrolet sedan and just having a modest single family home in the town you grew up in these extra material perks which more money allows us to buy are important in our lives as rewards. And while some people have a multi million dollar mindset others just have a mindset of supplementing their income.

That's fine, that's what's so great about the freedom money gives you not everyone wants the same thing. Not everyone has the same taste. Everyone wants different material kinds of houses, cars, furniture...

Secondly, some people think because rich people have more wealth than others and because money is only a tool to happiness they must be more unhappy than anyone else. That line of thinking has an underlying belief of rich people think dollar bill are instant tickets to happiness. That kind of thinking is based on conventional wisdom. The rich are no more unhappy or happy than any other class. You need to base someone's level of happiness not on their net worth but on an individual basis.

What this also does is it sets you up for financial disaster if you suddenly come into possession of more money than your used to having. A belief may pop into your head such as "all this money will make me unhappy" and you may even find ways subconsciously to get rid of it. Go through your beliefs and work through where they came from and why you have them.

Remember, what you believe you will achieve and thoughts lead to feelings which lead to action which leads to results. Money is an important tool to give you the time to do and have the things that make you happy.

March 26, 2007

Dealing with the Passing of a Loved One

Today I'm making a very special post to help others who are going through the loss of a loved work their way through the coping process better and hopefully come out with a different view about how to handle the coping process in the future.

Sunday I got word a close relative had passed away after battling with failing health and old age for a couple of years.

While I was expecting this news I didn't expect it so soon. Over the past week I've been coping with their passing and have accepted they are gone. But one thought helped me turn around my initial feelings of shock and then sorrow and turn those feelings into strength and even now closure. That thought was "honor their life by continuing to live yours and striving to reach your goals."

A day after I got the news I was in shock and I was walking around like a stoic shell. The morning process is believed to have eight stages. I'm sure I went through at least 3 or 4 in a couple of days. I shut down for a while and so did my business, at the time I didn't want to do much of anything. Until I that thought occurred to me. Life is meant to be lived.

Let me just say I'm not advocating going around with a stiff upper lip and pretending the loved one isn't gone. Denial will only cause more problems. It's O.K. to mourn and cry. Those feelings are normal and must be released because if they are kept bottled up they will come out in the form of negative energy in the future.

Everyone handles the process differently and it takes each person a different amount of time to go through it. Though, the mourning process shouldn't cripple you and bring your life to a stand still. Life must go on.

My relative led a very active life well into her old age and went on cruises, traveled around the world, and just generally acted younger than her actual age. She would appreciate a little mourning but wouldn't want my family to stop living their lives and spend weeks on end as sad drones. She would want us living our lives to their fullest, feeling good and just being happy.

The way we think about the passing of a loved one can all be changed by a shift in our mindset about the event. Instead of mourning over their loss you should celebrate not only their lives but also your life. Life is meant to be lived. A loss shouldn't be seen as a loss but as a rebirth, a rebirth of yourself. You come out on the other side of the mourning process a changed person with a different perspective.

So if your going through the mourning process it's okay to feel sad and to cry but don't be crippled by the feeling of loss. Continue to live your life. Live it better than before because life is meant to be lived to it's fullest in all aspects.

So make that phone call to that old friend, meet new people, spark up a romantic relationship, travel, go after your financial goals and just live life the way it was meant to be lived; to its fullest.

Go forward. We'll have more next time.

March 15, 2007

Thought of the Day

"Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny." Temet Nosce

Well have more next time.

P.S. My apologies to those who are keeping up with my series Applying The Secret: Money . I have been busy in the past week or so and have not had time to make an update here. I promise I'll post the conclusion soon.

Until then.

March 01, 2007

Think Different

While browsing YouTube today I found an inspirational short Apple advertisement from the late 90's which explains the Secret quickly, yet beautifully.

Whether or not your goal is to change the world think different.

We'll finally wrap up our series Applying The Secret: Money next time.

February 13, 2007

The Dream

I normally don't write about my dreams but I had one recently that was worth writing about and is relevant to the content of this blog.

Plus it's good to write down dreams which are related to your goals in life because you not only send a signal out to the universe in the form of thoughts and feelings from your dream but you also add energy to attracting the dream by stating your intention to the universe in writing. What you focus on expands.

Back to the dream. I had a dream this week that was exactly on the level of my goals in terms of lifestyle and financial capabilities.

In my dream I lived in a neighborhood with big, old, beautiful mansions lining the streets. (A bit like the neighborhood I live in now.) All the cars on the streets were Rolls Royce's and Mercedes'.

The house I lived in was fabulous. A big white colonial mansion that had a gourmet kitchen and a great dining room with a sprawling polished table. Unfortunately, I can't remember what the other rooms looked like.

Now, I'm grateful for the great house I currently live in but this house in my dream was just a step above. It was my dream house.

When I woke up I drew what I could remember of the floor plan on a sheet of paper to make sure I didn't forget the layout.

As I did this I wondered, can dreams be as powerful or even more powerful than normal visualization?

Of course!

Many of my dreams are very vivid and realistic, much beyond the realism in visualization. The images in my dreams are crystal clear. I can hear, smell, feel and almost even taste food if I'm eating in a dream.

Dreams are a very powerful method to attract what you want because they seem like reality at the very moment you're having them. In fact, when I woke up from my wonderful dream I opened my eyes and saw my bedroom and wondered, "whose house is this and how did I get here?"

That's how real dreams can be.

When I do normal visualization I close my eyes, visualize already having whatever it is I desire and feel the good feelings of having it now. That attracts it to me.

Though, in the back of my mind I know it's just me visualizing already having it which pushes what I want away it away just a bit.

In dreams the subconscious mind seems to take over when you fall into a deep sleep, usually this happens during periods of REM sleep (rapid eye movement). The dreams you have during REM sleep are the most realistic and vivid. It's almost like virtual reality if not exactly like it.

The thoughts and feelings we have work their way into the subconscious mind and show up in our dreams in one form or another. When we have dreams about the things we want and dream we already have them we are 100% convinced that it is our reality because we don't realize we're in a state of REM sleep.

We don't have conflicting thoughts such as knowing it is a dream or anything else to distract our attention away from the dream. Which attracts what we want without resistance from our conscious mind. It even seems to attract what you desire faster.

Drawing up the floor plan for my house on paper was just the beginning of the process of manifestation. There's been an internal push to make it happen and I'm already coming up with ways to make it happen and acting on them. My drive has always been strong to achieve my goals but it just went up a bit.

I find this exciting because once this happens one can start to experiment with lucid dreaming. Lucid dreaming seems fascinating because we only know so much of what goes on up in our most powerful and energetic organ.

Once we harness the subconscious power to achieve our desired goal we can program ourselves to achieve it. Maybe the way to manifest the things we want from life will even come to us in a dream and you will take inspired action on it. Who knows, anything is possible with the law of attraction and process of manifestation.

To sweet dreams,

We'll have more next time.

February 11, 2007

Overcoming Adversity

I've been meaning to write about an inspiring segment I saw on the Today Show Friday.

The segment was about the first blind person to reach the summit of Mount Everest, Erik Weihenmayer.

You can watch the segment here.

Erik and Paul Stoltz wrote a new book about the expeirence which explains how to use adversity to your advantage. The book is titled, "The Adversity Advantage: Turning Everyday Struggles into Everyday Greatness."

Using adversity to your advantage is an interesting concept and one theme I've heard some amazing success stories from. It's a topic I plan to write about in the future so be on the look out for that.

Defy impossibilities.

February 04, 2007

Applying The Secret: Money Part 3

Today we'll take on money myth number 3. The only way to make a lot of money is by selling drugs, gambling or doing other illegal things.

Not everyone who has amassed a substantial amount of money has amassed it by doing something illegal. The truth is money can be made any number of ways. All it takes is one idea and inspired action. You can write a book on your passion or create a best selling album, or do anything else that can make money legally.

Instead of focusing on all the unethical and illegal ways some wealthy people made their money you need to focus on what service can you offer that will make the kind of money you want?

Until focus you on that question you won't begin to move forward and will not have a plan of action to follow. Remember what you focus on increases. If you focus on the negative you will get more of the negative. If you focus on the positive (moving forward toward accomplishing your financial goals) you will get more of the positive.

You should follow your passion and strength. Passion is one of the keys to happiness, health (mental) and wealth. Follow your passion and strength and turn it into a business. Everyone one of us has something of value to offer. Don't take yourself or what you know for granted, you can do more than you realize.

What also happens when you use your natural strength and follow your passion is your creative energy turns the "work" into play. Work does not feel like work when you follow you do what you love. Time fly's by, you have fun, you help people and get paid to do so.

The positive energy released from doing what you love pulls you and your dream closer together, it aligns you with what you want.

When you do this you are on your way to success and that is the ultimate goal. Follow your passion and succeed.

January 09, 2007

Moving Forward with Gratitude

We'll continue with our mini-series on applying The Secret to attract more wealth soon but I want to pass along a quote from Joe Vitale's blog which struck me.

Gratitude or being grateful is one of the keys to getting what you want. When you realize what you have no matter how big or small or what it is you gather strength to attract and get what you want or more of what you want.

I don't know you personally but you could be grateful for having your health, or your family or anything else. Everyone has something to be grateful for.

"If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive the week.

If you have food in your refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank or in your wallet, you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful, you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.”

Author Unknown"

That's empowering because you have more than you think you have. And with those feelings of empowerment comes one of the keys to move forward toward your goal.
Move forward with gratitude.

I'll be back with our mini-series Applying the Secret next time.

January 02, 2007

Applying The Secret: Money Part 2

A new year and a new post. Today we'll tackle money myth number 2. Rich people are snobby, greedy and just plain mean!

It's ridiculous to think wealthy people are more greedy and snobby or mean just because they have more money than everyone else. Money doesn't make you more anything, you just become more of what you already are. If you're nice you'll be nicer. If you're a jerk you'll become more of a jerk.

The only thing money can change about you is your bank account. That's it. You'll still be the same person with 1 dollar or 1 billion dollars.

People can be snobby, mean and greedy if they are rich, middle class or even poor. There's all kinds of people with all kinds of net worths and personalities. Making having negative beliefs about wealth is a surefire way to ensure you won't achieve whatever level of financial success you seek.

Why this is so is because you'll want more money, but have a conflicting thought such as "People with lots of money are all snobs. I don't want to be snobby like all of them." Maybe someone thinks this because they had a bad expeirence with someone who they thought was wealthy (that person may or may not have been wealthy) and suddenly they decide everyone who was like that individual is snobby, greedy, mean... whatever.

A recent study shows households that make more than $200,000 or have a net worth of 1 million dollars or more more likely to give money than other classes. This is only logical. The more money you have the money you can give away. Does every single person of this demographic make donations regularly to charities. No. All they all like that. No.

Here's some surprising characteristics of the average millionaire according to the book The Millionaire Next Door:

"*More than 80% are ordinary people who have accumulated their wealth in one generation. They did it slowly, steadily, without signing a multi-million dollar contract with the Yankees..."

* Fewer than 20% inherited more than 10% of their wealth, and more than half never received a penny of inheritance.

* They "wear inexpensive suits and drive American-made cars. Only a minority... drive the current-model-year automobile." (Warren Buffet, billionaire and one of the world's wealthiest individuals, drives a six year old Lincoln Town Car. The founder of IKEA drives a Volvo from the late 80's and sometimes even takes the bus.)

* About half have lived in their current home for 20 years or more. (Again Warren Buffet has never moved out of his childhood home in Nebraska.)

* 80% are college grads, and 38% have advanced degrees.

* 20% are retired. Of those still working, about two-thirds are self-employed -- mostly entrepreneurs, but also self-employed professionals, such as doctors and accountants.

* On average, they invest nearly 20% of their household realized income each year."

People's notions of the wealthy also come from mass media. TV and movie portrayal of the wealthy are often based on stereotypes to make the plot more interesting. When was the last time you saw a wealthy person portrayed in a positive way in a movie or TV show?

They are often portrayed as soulless people who are vapid and extremely greedy pitted in a battle against everyone else. Rarely do you see them portrayed as an actual human being with feelings. Yet, the wealthy are part of the human species as far as I know.

There are wealthy people who are snobs but snobbery is just a false facade to hide one's true personality, it is a defensive mechanism much like arrogance. Again not all wealthy people fit the mass media stereotype of being snobby, mean and greedy.

If you find you have negative connotations about wealth reflect on why you have them. Go through each belief in a non-judgmental, loving way and ask yourself, "why do I believe that?" Search for the source of that belief and reflect on its meaning to work it out in a logical manner.

So there you have it, there are all sorts of people from all sorts of backgrounds. Just remember thoughts lead to feelings which lead to action which leads to results.