September 28, 2008

Success One Day at a Time

I came across a book while I was cleaning out the basement, it's a little journal that included quotes and adages. Just flipping through it gave me some motivation but a part I found very helpful in the book was the first page about the Truth About Success:

"-You are what you do daily

-You first form your habits; then your habits form you

-It is just as easy to form habits of success as it is to form habits of failure."

This pointed out to me that success is a process of habits instead of a one time thing and its more about the journey than the destination. As the book says "the only way to achieve real success is to do 'one day at a time.'"

You can find more books from the author at Google Books.

More next time.

July 19, 2008

Are Your Crying Our for Something Else? By Linda Storey

"It happened to me years ago.

I can still see myself standing in the most gorgeous banking office I ever had. It was 7:00 am, I was looking out at the derelict Ritz Hotel across the street where the patrons, most of them on welfare, were still sleeping and I envied them. The fact that they were on welfare didn't matter; I envied them. I envied their freedom. They were free from the rat race and the frenzy of the corporate treadmill I was on. I remember the tears and the sudden realization that I was at an important crossroad and had better start paying attention." Read more.

June 30, 2008

They Don't Teach Corporate in College: A 20 Something's Guide to Breaking into the Corporate World

I ran across a helpful book for college students and recent graduates who are looking to intern or work at a company, They Don't Teach Corporate in College. Author Alexandra Levit describes her book,

"Based on a mix of interviews, research and the author's personal journey, They Don’t Teach Corporate in College’s upbeat advice focuses on tangible tactics that recent college grads and experienced twenty-somethings can put to work immediately to grow their careers and increase their job satisfaction now and in the future."

I also ran across a great article in USA Today about age discrimination affecting younger workers and a survey that reports assumptions about Gen Y'ers are flawed.

From my personal experience Gen Y is held back from getting jobs because of the lack of experience perceived by their age and also media stereotypes. This is especially true for Millennial's (18-24 year old's). I should also say it matters what job position Geny Y is applying for, they will have a hard time breaking into a managerial job in the corporate world. In many professions experience is a one key to landing the job but it's not everything. Also see, 6 Ways to Gain Respect Despite Your Age.

More next time.

May 28, 2008

Overcoming Social Anxiety

Until recently little was known about social anxiety by psychologists or how to treat this debilitating problem. Most people feel occasionally shy only temporarily yet when you feel extremely anxious, worried and uncomfortable to the point where you avoid social interactions it can cost you to miss opportunities and experiences. It can also take an emotional tool leading to feelings of loneliness and depression.

Cases of extreme shyness can cost individuals their careers and marriage. Extremely individuals may even turn to drugs and alcohol to cope with their problems. Here's two things you can do to gradually get your life back.

1. Control Negative Thinking

Negative thoughts can cause you to make irrational decisions in social situations such as making false assumptions about how people perceive you. Try to figure out why these come up when you're faced with a social situation. Many times negative thinking is linked to other problems such as low self esteem and low self-confidence. Remember what others people think of you is not nearly as bad as what you're thinking about yourself.

2. Stop Avoiding Social Situations

Individuals with social anxiety will go to great lengths to avoid social situations. You need to gradually expose yourself to more social situations. Turning down invitations to gatherings, avoiding others, even crossing the street to avoid an acquaintance is behavior that will prevent yourself from making any progress of overcoming social anxiety. Avoidance behavior may seem like an easy way to deal with social anxiety but it only makes you're your anxiety worse in.

With cognitive changes such as keeping negative thoughts in check and behavioral changes such as gradually exposing yourself to social situations you can overcome your social anxiety. It may take a few weeks or even months but with time you can conquer your social anxiety.

You can find more out about social anxiety at Google Books

May 20, 2008

30 Tips How to Get That Swagger Back

Here's 30 useful tips for men on how to put get back that swagger in your step. If you feel like your in a rut or your love life has slowed down a bit than you'll want to check these tips out. Some of these tips are also helpful for women too.

April 12, 2008

Read Self Development Books Online

Just a quick post today about a useful find a came across today.

Some of my readers may already know about Google Books. You can read books online there on almost any subject, it's a great online resource for bookworms and information seekers also. Check out what they have in self development. I'm sure you'll find something useful.


March 22, 2008

The Science of Making Friends

Interesting clip from BBC special The Human Mind.

10 Hard Ways to Make Your Life Better

After another long and relaxing break I'm back with a quick update about how to make your life better- the hard way.

Sometimes the easy way is more appealing but the hard way is more rewarding because you learn lessons along the way you might not have learned if you took easy street.

I ran across this atricle on about 10 hard ways to make your life better. Read it and enjoy.

February 18, 2008

The Keys to Happiness

Back again after a short break.

Yesterday I saw an episode of 60 Minutes on the "keys to happiness". It was a pretty good episode but some parts were... interesting and even contradictory.

Such as one part where a professor of positive physiology at Harvard explained that Americans are some of the unhappy people because of they are "trying to do it all" and achieve material happiness.

While I agree with this, there is a distinction to be made between the material and financial. While material things don't make you happy the importance of having enough money to pay for your essential expenses (food and shelter) and having enough saved for the future is a key to not happiness but peace of mind.

The program even stated a common stereotype that the wealthy are the unhappiest class and the title to that segment is called "you can't have it all." That's up for debate.

Money doesn't make you happy but being financially free will give you the gift of time. Time to do things and be with people that actually make you happy.

Meaningful relationships with freinds, family and romantic partners are a key to happiness which the professor stated as a key to happiness. Humans are social animals and need others for support. Studies show people with freinds are more likely to live longer lives than those without.

The program also cited Denmark as the happiest country in the world, despite having the second highest suicide rate in Europe. 60 Minutes cited it was due to their low expectations of themselves. Number five was Switzerland, one of the most expensive countries in the world. America ranked in at 23 and very last in happiness was Burundi, one of the poorest countries in the world.

Even though these studies give a glimpse at how happy a country may be they are mostly quasi- scientific and it is extremely difficult to measure happiness for an entire country. Happiness is relative to each person. The universal meaning of happiness cited by the Harvard professor was doing something "meaningful and important to you." What is meaningful and important to each person is relative. The keys to happiness are really inside of you.

More next time.

January 05, 2008

Professor Randy Pausch Last Lecture

Happy New Year!

I'm back with a quick update for to start off the New Year Lecture.

Some of you may have heard the incredible story on the news last Fall about Professor Pausch, who was dying of cancer, and his last lecture he gave. The lecture was insightful and extremely valuable to all who attended it. You can now see his lecture on how to achieve your dreams at Google Videos.

Learn and enjoy. More next time.